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4.) Share a photo that represents how you see yourself.

I’ve always wanted to get this done as a tattoo.

On a related note, if there are any tattoo artists in the Atlanta area who would like to donate their time or add to their portfolio, I have a picture I’d like to get as a tattoo but have no monies.  I make a mean chili, though.

The original drawing was the woman on the right.  One day, on a whim, I copied her and mirrored her to the other side.

And fell in love with it.

To me, this picture says volumes about how I see myself.

quiet

silent

mirrored

In so many ways.

Each morning, when I look into the mirror, I ask myself who I am today.  I am so many things all roiled up in one body.

Wife

Mother

Daughter

Cousin

Aunt

Sister

Friend

Sometimes I can be all at once.  Sometimes one wins out over another.  Sometimes I can master that person in the mirror.  Sometimes I can’t.  Sometimes I worry about what someone else sees in that mirror.  Sometimes I don’t care.

Stephanie over at Adventures in Babywearing wrote a post on Identity the other day.  She had a wonderfully soft hidden meaning.  I picked up on it [after a bit] but then started to apply pieces of her post to me and my mirror.

When I was in college, I took a Virgina Woolf course.

[I know]

The Waves spoke to me on a level that I’ll never forget.  It has stayed with me through the years and I think of its story often, especially when I look in the mirror.

In the book, the entire story is told from the first-person point of view of 6 individuals.  Their soliloquies also introduce you and shape your perception of the book’s seventh character.  Your entire knowledge of Percival is through the six pairs of eyes of the book’s narrators.  If but one person perceived him differently, Percival would be a completely different person.

perception

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Who am I today?

How are you perceived in a crowd?  How do you perceive yourself in the mirror?  How many others in that same crowd look in the mirror in the morning and wonder the same things I do?

Writer’s Workshop

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4.) Describe your dream home…house, location, and grounds.

Funny she should have this as one of her prompts because I have been thinking about this nonstop lately for some reason.  Maybe it’s the “starting a family” or “going on our 3rd year of renting this house” or “being in debt to our eyeballs” but whatever it is, I’ve had home of my own on the brain.

And not just home of my own, but an amazing plot of land where family can abide as well.  Commune?  Maybe.

But not in a weird way.

Let’s dream for a minute that Stephen and I suddenly got our hands on roughly a ridiculous amount of money.  The kind you go all Scrooge McDuck on and practice high dive routines into gold coins.

I said dream.

Everyone has a list of what they would do if they won the lottery or inherited a ton of money from a generous relative or found a suitcase full of cash.

Stephen and I have a short, but very specific, list of things we would do for ourselves and our immediate family should we (when we…dammit) ever come into said money.  They include paying off debt, college fund(s), scholarships, vacations, retirement, etc.

The main item (after our debt is gone) is a house of our own.  One we can grow a family and have multiple dogs.

Location

This would be based on a few factors, namely if our parents could retire and live close to us.  Stephen wants to live near his family so he can still be a part of his brothers’ lives.  I want to live near mine pretty much for the same reason and so I can be near my mom because I miss her so bad it makes me all stabby.  We both want our children to be near all their grandparents and cousins as, for the most part, he and I were growing up.

Undoubtedly, though, it would be in the country in or near mountains and within reasonable driving distance to a decent-sized city so we still had all the amenities of city-living without the hassle (and taxes).

Grounds

Lots of them.

With a lake.

And trees.  Good climbing ones.

And room for horses for all the kids to ride.

And room enough that parents and siblings could build homes around the lake and live near enough to each other for visits but far enough away for privacy.  They know what I mean.

And a good portion of it fenced so we don’t have to worry about dogs escaping but they can “wander free” between the houses if they want to.

There would also be a garden.  A huge garden that we would all tend to together and grow our own veggies and herbs and fruits.

It would be amazing.

House

Now, everyone else’s home would be unique to their needs/wants and taste.

Mine?

Stone.  Maybe stone and timber.  But I LOVE stone houses.  Hardwoods throughout.  Tile in the bathrooms.  Huge windows to let in lots of sunlight so I can have a fighting chance of keeping indoor plants alive.

Enough spacious bedrooms for us, three kids, and a guest.  In thinking ahead to teenage years, each room would have its own full bathroom either en suite or just outside.  Minimization of bathroom fights is a must.

My bathroom has a jacuzzi tub.  Period.

And the separate stand-up shower is not only roomy but has a nice ledge so I can shave my legs without falling over.

Our bedroom either has a HUGE walk-in closet or fairly large separate his and hers closets.  I have shoes, y’all.  And dresses.  They need space.

The kitchen would be big enough to entertain with more than enough counter and cabinet space for all our cooking needs.  Stainless steel appliances because I just love how they look.  We’re both a big fan of the open floor plan so either a great room concept or something close for the kitchen, dining area, and family room would be awesome.

A fireplace is a must.

A laundry room with a door that shuts to separate it from everything else would be heaven.

A few extra rooms?  Office for Stephen.  Media room / Man cave for Stephen.  Workshop for Stephen.  Library for me with cozy reading areas and tons of shelving to grow our collection.  A creative room for me where I can write, sew, etc.  A playroom for the kids all decked out with toys and craft stuff.  A wine cellar.

Yes, a wine cellar.  My one “we really don’t need this but we want it” extra.

And a garage.  You don’t realize how much you miss covered parking and extra storage until you don’t have it anymore.

Speaking of storage, either tons of closets or a decent-sized attic or basement to store all our holiday stuff, clothes the kids are outgrowing but I don’t want to part with because I still want another baby, hiding presents, etc.

Outside, in addition to the massive family garden, we’d have an outdoor kitchen for entertaining along with an amazing amount of deck space.

And a swing set.

Of course.

In keeping with my increasingly crunchy nature lately, as green of a house as possible would be wonderful.  Solar panels, rain barrels, compost, recycling, etc.

Dream home?  Yes.

Attainable dream home?

Absolutely…

Mama’s

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Write a list of 100 things you want to do before you turn 100. Otherwise known as a “bucket list”.

  1. Write a novel.
  2. Publish a novel.
  3. Be on the New York Bestselling Authors List
  4. Provide a way for neither Stephen and I to have to work.
  5. Finance the renovation of my mom’s house and the full clear of her 23 acres of cedar trees.
  6. Assist in the birth of a horse.
  7. Get all dressed up for the Opera.
  8. Travel to Germany and visit the places I went to as a baby.
  9. Buy a cabin for Stephen’s parents.
  10. Send my brother-in-law to Japan and go with him for a long visit.
  11. Buy a cabin for Stephen and I.
  12. Send my brother and his wife on a nice vacation sans children.
  13. Have a day of shopping with no budget.
  14. Adopt a German Shepherd.
  15. Adopt a Great Dane.
  16. Plant a vegetable garden.
  17. Buy a home big enough to grow a family and have a workshop for Stephen.
  18. Get my Masters Degree.
  19. Achieve Master Sommelier.
  20. Learn to sew.
  21. Learn to knit.
  22. Learn to crochet.
  23. Make all sorts of fantastic items using the above methods and sell them to clamoring buyers.
  24. Adopt a child.
  25. Raise respectful and fantastic children.
  26. Own a cupcake bakery.
  27. Build a home.
  28. Lose 15 pounds.
  29. Get a tan.
  30. Eat pasta with Mario Batali.
  31. Yell at other drivers from a cab in New York.
  32. Swing in a hammock on the beach with some ice cold Coronas nearby.
  33. Cure migraines.
  34. Achieve 100,000+ blog views a month.
  35. Have another baby….or three.
  36. Invent something super cool that no one can live without.
  37. Be listed in the Guiness Book of World Records for something ridiculously awesome.
  38. Surf.
  39. Go diving in Belize.
  40. Own a villa in Spain.
  41. Own a swanky treehouse in South America.
  42. Visit a space station.
  43. Ride a camel in the desert.
  44. Wear my baby in a really beautiful wrap while sitting on a cliff overlooking the ocean.
  45. Make it so none of our parents have to work so they can spend time visiting grandchildren and going on trips.
  46. Spend a day at the spa with no budget.
  47. Drink a glass of ’92 Screaming Eagle ($80K a bottle).
  48. Have an amazingly romantic dinner at Altitude in Sydney, Australia. http://www.36levelsabove.com.au/
  49. Have a beach picnic with Ina Garten.
  50. Be a judge on Iron Chef America.
  51. Shop for wedding dresses with my daughter without a budget.
  52. Learn photography.
  53. Paint something beautiful.
  54. Spend the afternoon with my kids, a bare driveway, and a bucket of chalk.
  55. Get dressed up for opening night on Broadway.
  56. Protect my children from all harm.
  57. See all my grandchildren born.
  58. Hold my great grandchildren.
  59. Grow old with Stephen.
  60. Sell my own produce at a neighborhood Farmer’s Market.
  61. Read 100 books every year.
  62. Go on a cruise.
  63. Watch the sun set while laying on the hood of a Jeep in the plains of Africa.
  64. Go on an archeology dig.
  65. Find dinosaur bones.
  66. See the pyramids.
  67. Teach my kids to read.
  68. Cuddle with my husband in front of a fireplace.
  69. Have drinks with Liam Neeson.
  70. Be the voice of a Pixar character.
  71. Attend the Oscars wearing a designer dress.
  72. Go clothes shopping with my mom sans budget.
  73. Eat at Pinks and Street in Hollywood.
  74. Visit a diner with Guy Fieri.
  75. Own a restaurant.
  76. Spend a year in Europe.
  77. Eat sushi with Morimoto.
  78. Send my kids to any college they want.
  79. Get Lasik.
  80. Bake cookies with my kids.
  81. Eat breakfast in bed served to me by my husband.
  82. Own a horse.
  83. Go on a wine country tour in Napa.
  84. Be an amazing mom.
  85. Live closer to my family.
  86. Be debt free.
  87. Have dual citizenship with England.
  88. Send my parents on an all-expense paid trip to England to visit family.
  89. Own an island.
  90. Name a star.
  91. Have a maid.
  92. Attend an outdoor concert.
  93. Throw an opening pitch.
  94. Get 8 hours of sleep in a row.
  95. Read a book sitting in a window seat, drinking a glass of wine while my kids nap.
  96. Drive on the Autobahn with Stephen.
  97. Attend PAX in Seattle.
  98. Be a bridesmaid.
  99. Plan a friend or family member’s wedding.
  100. Swim with dolphins.

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